How many times last week did you stop and acknowledge what you’d achieved, the progress you’d made, the positive impact you’d had on others?
How many times last week did you push yourself on, criticise yourself for not doing more or doing better, how many times did you rush from one thing to the next?
I’m betting that you spent more time on the second of these than the first. It’s what we do as humans. And busy, overwhelmed humans who get caught up in what I call the vortex of overwhelm – that space where we have so much to do, so many priorities that we don’t know where to begin – do it even more.
The data I’ve been collecting from teachers, leaders and school admin and support staff over the past years, shows clearly that people are hard on themselves. They push themselves hard and have high expectations of their ability to perform and produce to a high standard and when they fall short, when they don’t quite make it, they are unforgiving and harsh to themselves.
The good news is, the data I’ve collected is self-reported. That means that everyone who responds to the survey and indicates they are hard on themselves, is aware they are hard on themselves. That’s good news because self awareness is where the work can begin.
Are you aware of your self talk habits? Are you encouraging and kind to yourself or critical and unforgiving?
I’m inviting you to be kind, encouraging and forgiving to yourself – just like you are to others around you. I’m inviting you to embrace your humanness and your less-than-perfectness. I’m inviting you to be real and reasonable with yourself.